Online Therapy Group for Partners of 
Trans, Intersex, Non Binary, Gender Diverse and Gender-Questioning Adults

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This online therapy group is designed for partners of trans masculine, trans feminine, non binary, gender diverse, questioning and intersex-identified adults.  This ongoing group is diverse in terms of race, whether you are a parent, age, and how long partners have been making changes. What members have in common is a desire to be non judgmental, supportive and to share experiences.   Group is a place to get emotional support for the complicated experience of having a partner come out.  Partners may enter the group feeling a sense of loss, anger, betrayal and confusion.  Other partners may feel excited or relieved that their partner's mental health is improving.  Sometimes having a partner come out causes you to look at your own sexuality and gender.  Your social experience and level of social bias may change.  For example, if you are a cis woman, your partner being seen as a woman may cause others to now see you as a lesbian couple.  Or, if your partner is non binary, people may not know how to identify your sexuality.  If you were always seen as part of a queer couple, you may now be perceived as heterosexual. 

Families often have difficult decisions to make such as how to time changes, and how to talk to kids and family. Group also welcomes partners who themselves are trans, non binary or intersex and having challenges around their partner coming out.

 

Occasionally, I may recommend individual therapy as a better place to get support.  Group may not be best for you if you are having a hard time experiencing anything positive about your partner, or are sure you plan to end the relationship. Though those feelings are not abnormal, it may make it difficult to be fully present as a group member.  Keep in mind, if you are gender-diverse yourself, being in group may mean hearing remarks from partners who are upset and/or are new to learning about gender diversity.  

Led by Lisette Lahana, LCSW, a white/latine cisgender therapist with over twenty years serving the diverse gender community and their loved ones.  In addition to gender therapy Lisette has done general mental health work, helping people with anxiety, depression, bipolar disorder and trauma.  Lisette can offer general information, during group, about medical interventions, such as hormones and surgeries. 

 

Details

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Must be a resident of California.  Depending on your mental health, I may request you have easy access to your own individual therapist.   Group members must be comfortable using tech for video meetings, have high speed internet and a private place to meet. A credit or debit card will be billed for group meetings, whether or not you attended every monthly meeting.  You may stop attending at any time.    

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Max 8-9 members.   Age 24 and up.  Members are pre-screened to make sure they are a good fit for the balance of the group. This first 15 min Zoom screening meeting is free of charge.

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Cost: $80 every other week 

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Can I use a FSA or HSA account to pay for this therapy group?  Yes.  And, if you have a PPO health plan that covers out-of-network therapy, Lisette can provide a monthly receipt (Superbill) you can present for reimbursement by your insurance, or a record of it as a healthcare expense for tax purposes.

 

Do you accept lower fees?  Yes, group has lower fee slots (ranging from $30-$75/group) for those who cannot afford the full fee.

 

Contact Lisette Lahana, LCSW or call (510) 915-4795 if you are interested in group or book the 15 min Zoom appointment that is called "New Client-Brief Meeting" directly into my schedule. A credit card secures your appointment but you will not be charged for the meeting. If you do not wish to put a credit card in, simply find a time that works for you and text me to let me know you want to be scheduled.